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Italian- America Gratitude Challenge # 5 – Music

If there is one thing that I could do for hours and hours on end, it’s listen to music. Music is one of the most comforting companions. There are songs for just about every mood. A day without music for me in unimaginable. On the way to work, in the background while at work, on the way home from work, while I’m cooking dinner and then doing work after dinner. If I’m cleaning, music is probably just about as loud as I think I could make it before my family wants to kill me. As I write this, the speaker in my kitchen is cranking out music from my daily mix on Spotify.

By now I think that most people who know me are used to me quoting songs, breaking out in song because someone said something and it made me think of a song. My wife will often test me on songs she has Shazamed (Shazam is an app that will tell you want song is playing). I’ll be teaching and a song will pop into my mind and I’ll have sing a bit of it as my students look at their crazy teacher sing off-key as if it were just another normal part of our lesson.

Without music, life would be a mistake.

Friedrich Nieitzsche

I didn’t have much in common with my father but the one thing we did share was a love of music. Like me, he was always listening to music. His favorite was music from the 1950’s and 1960’s but also like me, he could appreciate just about any kind of music. His first cousin, Mort Shuman, was an incredible songwriter who wrote songs for Elvis Presley, Dion, Fabian and The Drifters, to name a few. My father was so proud of this and maybe that was what made him enjoy that music so much or maybe he, like me, just felt that music was almost as necessary as breathing. Whatever it was, we shared this. Here’s a true story about us. On a cruise to Canada, my dad had put my name on a piece of paper to participate in an on-board game show. I was so angry that he put my name on that paper because the last thing I wanted to do was to be on a stage on a cruise ship. Naturally, my name was called and I told him that since he put my name on the paper, he had to be the one who went up on stage with me. Who could have known that the first questions would be something like name that tune? The first one, Madonna. I got that in like half a note. Don’t even insult me. The next, Ace of Base. (This should also tell you about when this was – about 20 years ago). We were unstoppable and we won it all – champagne, lithographs, a ship on a stick and excursions. Now that I think of this, it is probably one of the best memories that I have of us together.

Something I sadly have to admit is that I lack any and all musical abilities. Some people are born with it, some can learn to develop their abilities. I, on the other hand, have never been able to learn to read music, play music or sing well. Nonetheless, I have a deep, emotional connection with music and honestly, I am perfectly happy just singing along (badly) to every single song.

So how does this fit in with being grateful as an Italian-American? Well, no genre of music has ever truly turned me off. I can appreciate just about any kind of music but Italian music has a place in my life that other music can’t live up to.

When I first decided to learn the language of my grandparents, I didn’t realize that taking courses would not be enough and that music would quickly fill that void. After my first two courses, I realized that I needed more input. I needed input that would be more appealing to me. Input that I could interact with and that would bring me to the next level. Enter Laura Pausini and many artists to follow.

I bought my first Italian music CD at Tower Records. For more on this story, check out my post, You should be streaming Italian music!. This CD by Laura Pausini changed my life because it introduced me to the best way for me to learn the language. Laura’s voice literally sand to me and made me want to know what she was singing. After that, I listened to other artists and watched the Sanremo Music Festival. I built my collection and my vocabulary. I do believe that it changed my trajectory and helped me achieve success in the language and eventually become a language teacher. To this day, I use music whenever possible to help my students because I know that music has the power to take your comprehension skills to a new level. So many of my students have downloaded songs that we have discussed in class and knowing that makes my heart sing. They also get a huge kick out of watching their teacher make a fool of himself singing and dancing along to the music. And they know if a new Laura Pausini song comes out, there is no way we’re not going to listen to it. And that happened just a little over a week ago, when Io sì came out. You just cannot deny her voice (and if you need a translation- she has a English version but nothing will compare to the Italian version.

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Italian-American Gratitude Challenge #4 – Technology

I truthfully never thought I would ever be so grateful for technology. I will admit that although I am not so old, I have always been wary, if not downright suspicious, of technology. Technology should make things better and innovative in my opinion. I don’t use technology in my classroom just for the sake of using technology. A worksheet on the computer is exactly the same as it is on paper. However, I have learned that technology can be used for good and can be an invaluable tool that can keep us informed and connected.

“Technology is best when it brings people together.”

Matt Mullenweg, Social Media Entrepreneur

Social Media

Way back when I joined Facebook, I was a bit uncomfortable about sharing mostly because it was new and I don’t always deal well with new. After a while, I realized that Facebook could be a perfect way for me to be connected to people I don’t see often, like relatives in Italy. It was a perfect (and inexpensive) way to stay in touch with cousins I had met when I was in Italy and get to know others who I hadn’t met. My Facebook presence waned a bit when I discovered Twitter. On Twitter, I realized that I could customize information that came at me and also build a PLN (Professional Learning Network) with other language teachers across the world. This helped me to become a better language teacher and have a large sounding board for ideas. The idea to do this blog challenge came from Samara Spielberg, who I follow on Twitter. Recently, I joined Instagram. Instagram has given me a new view of social media. I’m sure that Whatsapp is not new to many but nonetheless, it helps me to stay in contact with my family and friends in Italy without spending a penny! All of these platforms help me to be informed about what is going on in Italy and have given me the opportunity to connect with different people who have been inspiring in their own way.

Spotify

A world without music for me would be a very sad one. Up until very recently, I have been purchasing music through iTunes and have sometimes been frustrated that Apple wouldn’t allow me to purchase a song because I didn’t live in Italy or for some reason the artist only made the song available on a premium streaming service. When my older son showed me how to use Spotify and told me he already paid for his subscription but we could have a family account for very little additional money, I tried it and I have to say, since I have been using it, I haven’t listened once to my music on iTunes. I love that I can find almost every song I could think of and thanks to my Daily Mixes, songs I didn’t know about or hadn’t thought of. I listen mostly to Italian music so Spotify gives me the access I crave.

In addition to the music aspect of Spotify, I have also begun to follow some podcasts. I had been following the Italian American Podcast since they debuted and I enjoy their show because of the content and their dedication to all aspects of Italian-American life. If you haven’t already been listening, it’s time to tune in! Through Spotify, I can follow podcasts and have one place to go and listen to them. I have added additional podcasts like Italiano Automatico, Leggiamo in Italiano and Pillole di Italiano. These have also helped to keep my language refreshed and current while also helping to give me some great ideas to use in my classroom. If you’re looking to help with your Italian language, give Spotify a try.

This, by no means is an exhaustive list but rather the first things that come to mind when I think about being grateful for how technology keeps me connected to my heritage and culture. What technology do you use to keep you connected to your Italian-American heritage and culture?

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Italian-American Gratitude Challenge #3 – My Country

It is only fitting that today’s gratitude goes to my my country on this day when we are called upon to cast our vote. Whatever side you are on, it is your right and duty to vote. Of course, tensions are very high and both sides are hoping for the best possible outcome but in the end, it is a right that we have here that still today in other nations their population does not have.

Life in Italy after the Second World War was difficult. Nobody could know what life would have been had they not been brave enough to leave everything and everyone behind but we do know about the life they made here. And it was a good one. Of course things were not always so easy, as I imagine any immigrant could attest to but once they established themselves and had jobs, a house and all the necessities, things certainly got better and the generations to follow have benefited immensely from their courage.

Although Italians were not always welcomed with open arms to our country, I am grateful that over the years, this country has come to embrace all things Italian. Italian has become synonymous with high quality products, high fashion and of course, gastronomic heaven. This shift in our country’s acceptance has made it easy to be proud of my heritage. It has made it easier to connect with my culture without even needing to leave my country. Italians have come a long way and have made great advances in careers. They have created organizations like NIAF (National Italian American Foundation) which create a bridge for Americans of Italian descent and promote the culture. Italian Americans have created new businesses that aim to share and appreciate our heritage with everyone. One of these that comes to mind is Cooking with Nonna. Rossella Rago’s business brings Italian products and recipes not just to Italian-Americans but to everyone.

In short, I am so grateful that Italian culture is embraced in my country so that I can enjoy the lifestyle that I do. I will add here that I hope that other cultures and peoples could be equally accepted like this eventually. It will only enrich our country.

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Italian-American Gratitude Challenge #2 – Food

The comfort of Italian and Italian-American food is something special. It is most often simple but made with love that envelops your every sense. What could be better that waking up to the aroma of sauce on the stove followed by the frying of some meatballs that will be added to the sauce to simmer until the sauce reaches the color, taste and smell of perfection? It is one of my favorite ways to start my Sunday. That’s just a small morsel of my love affair with Italian cuisine.

The very first Italian food I learned to prepare were chicken cutlets. Chicken, egg, bread crumbs and into a pan of hot olive oil. Simple but certainly a staple in my diet since I first learned to make them while I was still in elementary school. One thing that I learned from my mother was to use the leftover egg and breadcrumbs to make what we called “pancakes.” I still do it and I never get tired of them. A funny story I have about chicken cutlets is when I was shopping at Bath and Body Works with my wife. She was buying some chocolate scented body something-or-other. The cashier says “I bet it’s hard to stay away from her with that scent.” I just looked at her dead serious and said, “That would be true if it were chicken cutlet scent.” True story.

Orecchiette baresi with crumbled sausage and broccoli rabe, chicken cutlets (of course) and some roasted potatoes

If you think about it, all the delicious words in English have been borrowed from Italian. Pasta, pizza, mozzarella, ravioli and gelato pop right into my mind. You’d be hard-pressed to find anyone who didn’t know these words and, I think, even more hard-pressed to find that they didn’t love these things. I’m pretty sure that many non Italian-Americans might even know what a frittata is, can name quite a few Italian cheeses and many types of pasta shapes.

Zucchini frittata, a summer staple

I feel both grateful and spoiled by being born Italian-American. I have been eating homemade sauce, pasta and pizza since I can remember. Over the years, I have come a long way from making chicken cutlets. I have learned from books, magazines, television shows and so many people on social media. I have learned to make some dishes from my wife and her family who come from a different region than my family does. One of the fan favorites in our house are panzerotti. They are from Puglia, on Italy’s heel, and are like mini pizza pockets that you can fill with whatever you like. I’ve also started to adapt recipes to my own tastes and so far no one seems upset in my house.

One thing that I do make from time to time is chicken cutlet parmigiana. While this dish is only something you’d find in an Italian-American restaurant or household and might confuse Italians from Italy, it is still delicious and a crowd-pleaser. Our ancestors brought their culinary expertise and over time, we have adapted some dishes but that doesn’t make them any less satisfying or make us any less Italian.

Chicken cutlet parmigiana- not an authentic Italian dish but comforting just the same.

Food can arguably be one of the most important facets of Italian-American life, after family. During the quarantine this year, I took the opportunity to share my love of cooking with my one of my sons. My other son is mostly interested in eating what we make more than making it. I hope I’ve given him some invaluable lessons and hope that he’ll continue to prepare some of our favorites. If you have any stories about food you’d like to share or want to share a recipe or your go-to Italian comfort foods, please share!

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Italian-American Gratitude Challenge #1 – Family

Although this year has been a very tough one for many of us, that doesn’t mean that we have to be consumed by despair. It is all too easy to give in to negative feelings and to let it fester in us until it becomes downright depressing. When I saw a post by a fellow language teacher, Samara Spielberg (@SamaraSpielberg on Twitter), in which she explained that she would be participating in a 30-day gratitude challenge that she had created with her students, I was immediately taken by the idea. What a great idea! This can be both educational and restorative. It’s not that I hadn’t discussed gratitude in my language classes before, but this year it seems as if we could certainly benefit from this so I decided to do something very similar with my students in an effort to help them better their language skills and to boost our morale in these very uncertain times.

At first, when I started to think about what kind of blog post I was going to work on this weekend, I had a bit of a block. I had a bunch of ideas but not sure any of them were exactly what I was feeling this week and then I had a thought, what if I did something similar to what I was asking my students to do but with a bit more focus? And so this is how I decided to make my own 30-day Italian-American Gratitude Challenge; focusing on the things that I am grateful for. My goal is to post every day in November and my hope is that I will come out of this experience refreshed and appreciative of all I have – a kind of soul reboot in a time when things seem like they can go either way. If you’d like to join me in this challenge, I’d be honored to read your comments.

First and foremost, I have to be thankful for everything that I have and everything that I am because of my family. Their influence, whether positive, negative or somewhere in between, has shaped the person I am. Nobody is perfect but everyone plays a role.

Although not all of my ancestors came from Italy, the ones that did had the strongest influence on me. I felt closest to my maternal grandparents, who had emigrated to the United States in the 1950’s. When I was younger, I would spend a few weeks every summer with them. My grandmother would cook and cook and then cook some more. My grandfather would teach me how to recognize all the plants in his garden (he grew everything) and I would help him to gather the tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers, figs or whatever happened to be ripe at the time. You could never go hungry in that house!

Aside from all the eating, I would play Italian cards, watch tv with them, go for walks with my grandfather and listen to their endless stories of Italy and how they came to America. My grandmother was so proud of me when I wrote a story about her coming to America while I was in elementary school. “My grandson – he wrote the book, ” she would tell people. It was probably no more than one page but she was proud nonetheless. My grandparents had sacrificed and worked hard to create a new and better life for their family. Although their sacrifices might have seemed to be of immediate necessity, their dedication to their family was something that would live on longer than them and hopefully continue throughout all generations to come. My grandmother does have a very interesting story and if you’re interested, check out another post of mine – Our family lives on in their stories.

I always knew that my Italian heritage was important to me. It was, and still is, a large part of who I am. My decision to study Italian in college was not a whim- it was a necessity for me. I wanted to be closer to my heritage and I felt as if I couldn’t fully appreciate it until I immersed myself in the language and traveled to the land of my ancestors. When I first set foot in Italy during my first study abroad experience, I was flooded with emotions I never even knew I had.

Having a family of my own was never a question for me. Sharing my love for all things Italian was just as important to me. It was not long after I began dating my wife, Teresa, that I knew she would be the perfect match for me. She was a first-generation Italian-American, she spoke Italian and shared a love of all things Italian. Although we can be very different, we share the same core values and that’s why our family is so strong.

Teresa’s family welcomed me into their family right away as one of their own – even before we were married. I can honestly say that I have never felt an outsider when I am with them. When I was studying in Italy, I had even gone to stay with some of her family without ever meeting them! They never questioned anything. All they had to know was that Teresa and her family in America trusted and accepted me. It could have been awkward but for some reason, it never felt that way.

My own Italian cousins, who I had not grown up knowing, had also welcomed me as if I had always been a part of their family. I was lucky enough to stay in the town my grandmother grew up in and to be able to visit my grandfather’s hometown as well. And thanks to social media and technology, we are able to stay connected.

I had never seen my grandparents as happy as they were the day of my wedding. It was as if they had understood then how all of their sacrifices had paid off with interest. When my grandmother would later be able to meet my own children, she would often tell me that she never imagined she would meet her great-grandchildren with such pride in her eyes. I am sure that my grandfather would have felt the same if he were here when they were born. Now that they are no longer here, it seems increasingly more important to me to write their story so that it can be recorded forever and will be passed on to my children and hopefully, their future generations.

When my sons were born, I never imagined that I would have been able to feel so much without bursting. They are the reason that I work as hard as I do. I imagine that my grandparents, parents and in-laws felt the same when they began their families. You don’t have to be rich or famous to have a family but having the one I do makes me feel as if I won the lottery. I couldn’t be richer than this.